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Of Humility and Greed
Star Wars Vs. Real Wars
Leaving Home: For Binos, In Memoriam
Kaliyuga, Choo, Choo
Dreams of Kindness, Love and Grace
Torture In The American Gulag
Transformation Found In A Broken Foot
Parenting At The Future's Edge
Intuitive Decision-Making In An Age of Chaos
Email From Portland
(Kaliyuga, Choo, Choo . . .)
Whats interesting, is how often such lame excuses are accepted. Maybe its a wish to avoid prolonging the episode. Maybe from experience we know that anything short of prompt agreement will plunge the Defensive One into greater depths of asininity. The freakout was bad enough. Lets not stand in the way of a graceful exit. Who knows? By pretending it never happened the conflict might just slip away.
Well, that would certainly be nice, if it happened that way. But what we shun has a way of coming back to haunt us. The something we hoped would just magically slip into oblivion, tenaciously remains. The unresolved conflict, the suppression of emotion, the tacit projection that everything is hunky-dory only temporarily veils the dissonance of unfinished business.
The Messiness of Things
Unanswered, unresolved, unacknowledged, this internal conflict can be most disruptive. Every society must deal with this conflict within its members. Mature cultures with a thorough understanding of the demons within face this terror and bewilderment directly. Thats what a Vision Quest or Rite of Passage is all about. Allowing each member the necessary time and support to acknowledge this conflict within produces a more stable community. Allowing each member to taste these energies, to see the play of good and evil, to own both, and thus transmute that dichotomy into wisdom enables the indispensable transition from adolescence to adulthood.
Demonization in a Black Trench Coat
Once proclaimed, dogmas need only to be memorized and accepted by faith. Not the type of faith that comes from knowing ones self, from enduring a Dark Night of the Soul, but an expedited version that allows little latitude in forming solutions from ones own juices. As an added feature, this method further abbreviates the whole process so it can be quickly done with a minimum cost to both the neophyte and society. Well, that is, if you overlook things like Thirty Year Wars, the Inquisitions, and Jihads to drive out the Infidels.
Quick and dirty methods tend to produce less than optimal results. Its like cutting off one foot then wondering why we hobble around in circles. As an old Tibetan Proverb says, A new patch on an old coat soon comes off. Quickly acquired resolutions tend to unravel at the first sign of conflict or engagement.
Now I can just feel some of you out there thinking this describes the type of society we live in. But youre being much too kind. The category we fit in is another rung down from immature societies. We dont even have decent dogmas. Weve substituted thinly veiled propaganda crammed into our non-discriminating minds via 10 second sound bites and photo ops supplied by paparazzi. We have avoidance personified.
Were taught to evade our internal dissonance. And when thats not possible, to wait for further instructions. Whatever we do, we shouldnt draw conclusions from our own experience or go digging for information to form our own diagnosis. Say, for instance, about World Events. Thats Madeleine Albrights job. Just listen to the Evening News. Any channel will do. All will become perfectly clear if you pay attention. Did you hear? Pay Attention!